No greater love
David Bassey
Editor in Chief
It is Valentine’s day. And if you’re like most students on campus, you wonder what love really is or perhaps whether you really love that person that keeps giving you the butterflies as they walk into class.
Love. The four-letter word that’s so powerful, it brings warring nations together, so strong it can tear families apart. Meriam-Webster defines it as a strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties.
Although many millennials today struggle with a myriad of issues, with one of the topmost being how to find love. The young freshman comes to college looking to break out of their former self and get connected to that dashing guy or the sway-looking girl s/he saw last night.
But what is love? Love is giving your best to another, as Reese Witherspoon says, “you always gain by giving love.”
The desire to love and care for others is a hard-wired trait in humans and of course, it is the cause of the deep sense of fulfilment of our happiness levels. Having spoken to some students on campus, “we love because we want to feel loved and giving love brings a hope of reciprocation,” this love brings with it a sense of comfort, security and trust.
When asked how she will give love, one student says she will be giving out agape’s- these are fun sized acts of kindness delivered around campus.
For men seeking a long-term relationship, wondering what women want. In general, the experts (ladies) say women need love and affection, a need for conversation and emotional intimacy, financial and emotional security and -naturally- a man who puts family first.
For the ladies, men generally desire a physically attractive spouse, a need for sexual intimacy, respect and admiration, good food -yea that’s right, and recreational companionship -that means learning what he likes.
If you’re already in a relationship and wondering ways to improve it: check out resources like the strength-based marriage by Allan Kelsey and Jimmy Evans and five languages of love by Gary Chapman. These languages hep to grow your communication and they are: words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, quality time and physical touch.
To be honest, I’m such an old-fashioned guy, so when I think about love, I think more about the future – courtship, marriage and the likes. I’ve been thinking of what I love most, it is Jesus Christ. To me, there’s no greater love.
If you don’t have that special someone today, go out there and make someone’s day, give a hug, smile and support the valentine’s day bake sale to financially support fellow student Deisy Canon, who was recently diagnosed last semester with breast cancer and is currently undergoing treatments.
Feature photos by David Bassey | MSU Reporter.